The 3 Components of Self-Compassion

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In Self-Compassion, Dr. Kristen Neff tells us:

“As I’ve defined it, self-compassion entails three core components.

First, it requires self-kindness, that we be gentle and understanding with ourselves rather than harshly critical and judgmental.

Second, it requires recognition of our common humanity, feeling connected with others in the experience of life rather than feeling isolated and alienated by our suffering.

Third, it requires mindfulness—that we hold our experience in balanced awareness, rather than ignoring our pain or exaggerating it. We must achieve and combine these three essential elements in order to be truly self-compassionate.”

We already know that self-compassion is critical to boost motivation and willpower. Now we know the 3 steps to implement it fully.

#1 Don’t beat yourself up. Treat yourself like you would a child or a dear friend. #no-big-deal #needs-work

#2 It is not because you are you that you feel anxiety, fear, sadness, etc. it is because you are human. We all feel negative emotions at times.

#3 We must accept things as they are. When we argue with reality we lose but only every single time.

Kristen shares two formulas with us:

#1 “Suffering = Pain x Resistance”

#2 “Suffering = Pain ^ Resistance”

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