Lanny Bassham is a world-class rifle shooter.
He won silver in the 1972 Olympics and gold in the 1976 Olympics. He is now a coach, and he teaches his elite performers to ask three questions when they fail to achieve their goals, perform poorly, or reach an aspiration.
The 3 questions are:
1. “What did I do well?”
2. “What did I learn?”
3. “How will I get better?”
We win, or we learn!
My son is a competitive gamer, and he fails a lot. Sometimes, he argues with reality. To help him reframe his failures, I always say, “You win, or you learn.”
- What did you do well? Maybe the only thing you did well was show up. Congratulations! You showed up.
- What did you learn? You can always learn something.
- How will you get better? How will you train differently or create an If-Then plan to counter that obstacle in the future?