Creator vs Victim

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In The Power of Ted, David Emerald tells us:

“One of the fundamental differences between the Victim Orientation and this one [Creator] is where you put your focus of attention… For Victims, the focus is always on what they don’t want: the problems that seem constantly to multiply in their lives. They don’t want the person, condition, or circumstance they consider their Persecutor, and they don’t want the fear that leads to fight, flee or freeze reactions, either. Creators, on the other hand, place their focus on what they do want. Doing this, Creators still face and solve problems in the course of creating outcomes they want, but their focus remains fixed on their ultimate vision. The focus in the Creator Orientation is on a Vision or an Outcome. You orient your thoughts and actions toward creating what you most deeply want to see or experience in life. A Creator is vision-focused and passion-motivated. To really live into your Creator self, you are called to do the inner work necessary to find your own sense of purpose—whatever touches your heart and holds meaning for you. If you find yourself showing up as Victim, ask: ‘What do I want?!?’

Wow! Victims focus on what they don’t want. Creators focus on what they do want. As I have experimented with moving from victim to creator I have learned that when I play the role of victim I give up my power and influence. When I step into the role of creator I exert my power and influence.

Not too long ago something horrible happened. At first, I played the role of victim. Why is this happening to me and my family? But then I flipped the switch. What do I want? Then I got busy working diligently, patiently, and persistenlty toward that outcome.

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